I’ve spent each day over the last week looking into one of
our family building options. I am a crazy person, so I came up with a ranking
system on 4 categories: difficulty of next step, cost, stress that will occur/
is likely to occur when doing it, and likely hood I get a baby out of the deal.
What can I say, my job is literally managing data. I make spreadsheets and
information capture systems 9-5, 5 days a week (really 8:30-4 and 8 until it’s
done for the day, but that’s neither here nor there).
In brief, it really is least stressful for me to just jump
into this next (likely last) IVF. I know what to expect (not that it’s GOOD or
fun, but it’s known), the monetary aspect is minimal and I get a full genetic
link to a child that comes out of this process. I’m not sure how important that genetic bond
is to me, but I do know I am sad when I think about how much Kins looks like
hub when I think I will NEVER have that. Though, it isn’t really important.
My next post will have the breakdown of IVF #3, Donor egg,
Donor embryo, adoption infant, adoption foster-to-adopt.
I think it's important to create that criteria and use it vs. being swept away with the decisions. It sounds like you found one that brings peace of heart, even if it isn't a perfect solution.
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