The song tells me that one should "Start at the very
beginning" and that it is a "very good place to start". This is all well and
good, but where oh where is the beginning?
I feel like looking into adoption is like trying to untangle
a string of Christmas lights (one not put on one of the handy-dandy light
rollers, of course). I am just looking at the lump of wires and bulbs, still
haven't even found the plug on one end. I’m just pulling the string at random,
not knowing how close to the beginning the section I'm working on is.
From the few people I have spoken to, (and I have more to
contact), I have been sent in a few different directions:
Decide on a country and age range
Talk to a few agencies (but watch of for ones with fees! Or
may be they are OK actually…)
Know you're done with the fertility treatments
Foster?
Think about debt/home study roadblocks/ other skeletons
Ugh. I don't know where to go from here. We have the
therapist we see who is an adoptive father- we may ask him.
I wasn't going to add this but just to be fair- one
additional egg went on to fertilize- so we have two that were growing at 2pm
yesterday. 1 4 cell "perfect" and 1 3 cell with a bit of fragmentation. To keep
us all real- last time I had the same PLUS 2 more "perfect" 4 cells and one
made it to biopsy.
This sounds hard and overwhelming. I don't have any sage advice. But I have hugs I can send. {{{{{{{{{{}}}}}}}}}} (That kind of reminds me of a vagina for some reason.)
ReplyDeletelol, because it looks like a vagina. hahaha
DeleteMay your post script lead to something really good :-)
ReplyDeleteIf you do decide to look at adoption, I wrote a book on it. Check out the reviews and see if it's something that might help you out I'm happy to talk with you about anything.
http://www.amazon.com/Open-Hearted-Way-Open-Adoption-Helping/dp/1442217383/
Thank you so much for commenting! Your book has crazy-good reviews- so I bought it last night! Thank you again!
DeleteI was just about to suggest you talk to Lori, and then saw that she left a comment before me! I second her book.
ReplyDeleteAnd just to make your head spin even more, you may want to check out my blog and look under all the adoption tags. The previous Microblog Mondays I've been posting on things I wish I had known about adoption. I am Canadian however, so I can't recommend agencies and every state has their way guidelines.
ReplyDeleteThank you! I will check it out!
DeleteHi, I'm here from Mel's Round-Up. I've adopted internationally and we're in the midst of becoming foster certified now. I think the Christmas light strand is a great analogy. I wrote a couple of posts about international adoption, if that helps. http://apluseffort.com/2011/12/15/so-you-want-to-adopt-internationally/ http://apluseffort.com/2014/06/13/so-you-want-to-adopt-internationally-part-2/
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