The song tells me that one should "Start at the very beginning" and that it is a "very good place to start". This is all well and good, but where oh where is the beginning?
I feel like looking into adoption is like trying to untangle a string of Christmas lights (one not put on one of the handy-dandy light rollers, of course). I am just looking at the lump of wires and bulbs, still haven't even found the plug on one end. I’m just pulling the string at random, not knowing how close to the beginning the section I'm working on is.
From the few people I have spoken to, (and I have more to contact), I have been sent in a few different directions:
Decide on a country and age range
Talk to a few agencies (but watch of for ones with fees! Or may be they are OK actually…)
Know you're done with the fertility treatments
Think about debt/home study roadblocks/ other skeletons
Ugh. I don't know where to go from here. We have the therapist we see who is an adoptive father- we may ask him.
I wasn't going to add this but just to be fair- one additional egg went on to fertilize- so we have two that were growing at 2pm yesterday. 1 4 cell "perfect" and 1 3 cell with a bit of fragmentation. To keep us all real- last time I had the same PLUS 2 more "perfect" 4 cells and one made it to biopsy.